Bo’s Rules to Live By

1. Never shake a man’s hand sitting down.

2. There are plenty of ways to enter a pool. The stairs ain’t one.

3. The man at the grill is the closest thing we have to a king.

  • 4. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.

5. Act like you’ve been there before. Especially in the end zone.

6. Request the late check-out.

7. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.

8. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.

9. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas.

10. Don’t fill up on bread.

11. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look him in the eye.

12. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.

13. If you need music on the beach, you’re missing the point.

14. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.

15. You marry the girl, you marry her whole family.

16. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.

17. Experience the serenity of traveling alone.

18. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.

19. Never turn down a breath mint.

20. Don’t talk, Do.

21. A sport coat is worth 1000 words.

22. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.

23. Thank a veteran. And then make it up to him.

24. If you want to know what makes you unique, sit for a caricature.

25. Eat lunch with the new kid.

26. After writing an angry email, read it carefully. Then delete it.

27. Ask your mom to play. She won’t let you win.

28. See it on the big screen.

29. Give credit. Take the blame.

30. Write down your dreams.

31.  Chase those dreams down.

32.  Make a friend, Be a friend…

then bring that friend to Christ.

33.  Preach the Gospel always, and 

when necessary… use words.

34.  Listen more and don’t be so adamant about stating your opinion.

35.  Make a decision.  It doesn’t always have to be the right one…but make one.

36.  Don’t ever become complacent.  Keep moving.

37.  Do everything with a ‘Cool’ attitude.  It’s better to be dead and cool, than alive and uncool.

38.  Open the door for the Lady, and pull out her chair.

39.  Say, “Yes Sir & No Ma’am.” It’s still called respect.

40.  Defend your leaders, and never criticize them in public.


The Power of Positive Failure

If hindsight is 20/20, then we should have no problem looking  back on our past mistakes with newfound wisdom and thanksgiving.  And we can do that because we understand the power of positive failure.  Haven’t heard of this principle?  Well, that’s about to change!

The Power of Positive Failure is a principle coined by one of my mentors, Dr. Paul Carlin, and I’ve seen overwhelming evidence of this principle operating in my life, again and again.

P.O.P.F. works like this: After making a bad decision, or terrible mistake… “All things work together to the good to those who love God; the called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28)  God, in His infinite wisdom, ensures those who love Him that the mistakes they make will not work against them, but FOR them… as long as they continue to love Him.  That’s  the key.   You did realize that this was a spiritual principle, right?!  I mean, who else in this universe can take your worst tragedy and turn it into triumph?  Only God.  And He does it everyday, for His Children.

The secret fuel that ignites this principle is your ability to recognize the power in your failure and stay close to God in those times of trouble.  We tend to want to run and hide when we mess up, like Adam did in the garden of Eden, but God doesn’t want us to have to do that.  He wants us to run TO Him instead, like King David did.  David got into all sorts of trouble, but he would quickly take responsibility, ask for forgiveness, and then he would repent. 

How is it even possible to act like David when we are overwhelmed with guilt and shame because of our disobedience?  How can we do that when we feel completely unworthy?  Here’s the code:

Go ahead and finally admit what the Bible has said about you for thousands of years… We are fallible, sin prone human beings; we sin often, even when we don’t want to.  And yet, we call ourselves “Good.”  We continue to look to our works for justifi ation.  Think about it.  Ever heard the term, “Good Christian?”  There is no such of a thing!  A person is a Christian by virtue of being saved, period.  There is no “good saved & bad saved.”  You are just saved!  Salvation makes us saved, not good.

Apart from Christ, our best works are as filthy menstrual rags to God.  Stop arguing with that fact, get over yourself, know that you are going to mess up, and just talk to God about it.  Remember, He knows us better than we know ourselves.  And besides, God’s thoughts are so much higher than our thoughts.  Meaning, He doesn’t consider what we do in the same light that we consider what we do.  

Can we finally admit the truth and take comfort in the fact that our screw ups are blessings to us?  I, for one, am doing just that!  Take some time and chew on this nugget for a while, it could very well change your life.

Committing a sin does not in any way disqualify you from ministry.  How did that lie get propigated anyway?  Just because a soldier gets dirty on the battlefield does not disqualify him from entering into the next battle.  

A Christian is obligated to love and minister to others whether they are perfect, or not.  The storms are going to come, and some will be created by our own stinking thinking, but God still wants to use us! You never stop being a minister of the Word because of human fallibility.