Friendship is not a word that I use loosely. Being a friend takes much more than just knowing how to spell the word. A friend is someone who made a choice to stick by you, regardless of her behavior, and will not tuck tail and run when the masses are wanting to stone him.
What are the ingredients that make up that special connection called friendship? I may not know every single social herb and root, but what I do know is this: it takes things like loyalty, honor, respect, commitment, and abiding love to create what the world today has lost sight of: True Friendship.
But when searching for that unique connection with another human being, beware of the false friends. Yes, I’m talking about the fair weather people who call themselves friends while the relationship is going smoothly…but when turbulence occurs, they have abandoned ship. We all know a few of these types of friends, don’t we.
But are those types of fickle people really friends? That depends on your personal definition of friendship, but according to the Urban Dictionary, “Friends are people who are aware of how retarded you are and still manage to be seen in public with you. People who make you laugh till you pee your pants. People who cry for you when one of your special items disappear… when you dont have enough money to get a ice cream, they chip in… knows all of your internet passwords; who would never make you cry just to be mean.”
If the people you’re surrounded by cannot meet at least 85% of the prerequisites in that definition, I would not deem them friends. Those kinds of people are called associates, in my opinion.
Associates are seasonal people. They are in your life for a specified period of time. True Friends are permanent people. They are in your life for the remainder of your life. Associates are a dime a dozen…while true friends are rare diamonds. Treat each catagory accordingly.
Friendship: Once you have tasted the sweetness of such a strong bond, you’ll not eat from another agape tree.